Everyone can be indecisive. For some it may be something that is habitual and for others it may only apply to specific situations or circumstances.
But being indecisive about everything is not a good thing, but it isn’t something to be ashamed of and it is possible to break out of it.
If you’re still young, you may grow out of indecisiveness as you go through more, have more experience and just with age. But if it’s something you’ve struggled with for your entire life, now is the time to break free.
Here are some things you need to know about making decisions that may help you to either decrease your fear in making them or help you in halting your habit of being indecisive.
#1. Make a decision and don’t fixate on possible aftermaths.
Most of the time, you may have a hard time making a decision because you’re worried about whether or not it’s the right one, and about the outcome.
While this may be wise to do in certain situations, many times you do not have the time to do this because of a deadline or if someone needs an immediate answer.
If you make a decision and it turns out to be the wrong one, you make another decision to successfully and effectively handle the situation.
Just do it, because no decision at all will lead to uncertainty, which may lead to chaos.
#2. If it’s a time-sensitive situation, prioritize it.
When my aunt asked me if I wanted to join her, my uncle and my cousin on their trip to Georgia, I couldn’t give her an immediate response but because she needed to buy plane tickets, she needed one right away.
I was busy with my internship at Newsday so I figured I’d think about it when I got home, but because she needed an answer right away, I had to come to a decision right then and there.
Whether it’s a decision you need to make about a trip or a dinner appointment, if it’s time-sensitive, don’t delay and make it a point to come to a decision at that time.
#3. Don’t focus on what other people may think of your decision.
Much of my indecisiveness was focused on concerns of what other people would think or how they would react when they found out about it.
If you have to make a decision that deals with yourself or your own life, do your best to filter out thoughts and worries of what other people may think of it.
For example. if you’re trying to choose an outfit for a party, instead of asking yourself, “What would other people think of me?” or “Would they think I look trashy?” ask questions like, “Is this appropriate for the occasion?” or “Do I feel comfortable in it?”
The former questions focus on what others think and the latter focuses on yourself and are more general to the event instead of the people who will be attending.
#4. Make a list of pros and cons if it’s more long-term.
A pros and cons list is very helpful when you’re in the process of coming to a decision, because it focuses on the facts and logic over feelings and worries.
If you need to make a decision on a situation that is long-term like what kind of major you should pursue or what you want to do for the holidays next year, a pros and cons list can be very useful.
With a pros and cons list, you can take each possibility and break it apart easily without over-analyzing it and it’ll help you organize your thoughts.
How I would use a pros and cons list to make a decision comes down to whether the pros outweigh the cons or vice versa.
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