In this modern day and age, marriage comes in all different shapes and sizes.
Regardless of how or when, you should feel fortunate to enjoy the sanctity of marriage, because some never will.
If you’re with your forever love and find yourself blessed with a baby, like my husband and I, here’s what happens.
Baby Fever vs. Wedding Bells
My amazing husband and I were blessed with the joys of pregnancy and childbirth during our engagement, which also means that our 4-month old son was present at our wedding.
If you find yourself in a similar situation, the excitement of baby fever and your upcoming nuptials may be overwhelming.
If you’re like me, baby fever may easily takeover. Holding, cuddling, feeding, and loving your little one, might make you completely forget about that cake tasting you scheduled.
Plan as much of the wedding as you can before baby arrives. This will help you forget that you have morning sickness in the morning, afternoon, and night. It will also help pass the time, especially since you have a lot to be excited about.
I handmade wedding invitations and favors, and made all of the major purchases and decisions. The only thing I had left post-baby was altering my dress, for obvious reasons.
Recruit help! Pre-baby, you’ll need all the help you can get, especially when walking becomes waddling. Post-baby, your recruits will help you keep all your ducks in a row while you’re GaGa over your newborn. For me, this included my mom and mother-in-law.
By the time the big day arrived, I was fortunate enough to have help from best friends, best friends’ moms, groomsmen, you name it!
The Never-Ending Cash Flow
Baby plus wedding may feel like the money tree has run out. Both are expensive, and for the most part, the expenses are completely necessary.
If you do much of the wedding planning before baby arrives, try to make most of the major purchases as well. This way, wedding expenses will be less stressful on your wallet.
Stocking up on baby essentials before baby arrives will also alleviate financial stress. Buy diapers each month leading up to baby to spread out the expense.
I am a unicorn of my kind. I was neither a bridezilla, nor did I feel the stress of losing sleep with my newborn, but it’s no surprise if you feel like a sleepless bridezilla.
My newborn took over wedding mode, and I was perfectly satisfied with how the wedding would turn out. I already had everything I wanted: a future husband and a wonderful baby. But if you can’t find it very easy to relax here are a few tips.
This goes without saying, but ask your partner for help. Being a new mom and a soon-to-be blushing bride is not easy. Don’t juggle the stress of both roles on your own. Let your future spouse get some practice at night while you catch up on your beauty sleep.
As for how to tame bridezilla? Rest assured, your little bundle of joy will give you all the happiness you need to balance out the beast.
Daddy is the New Sexy
The real truth: having a baby with your future spouse before the wedding gives you a whole new definition of love.
Watching them become a parent before your eyes may give you a million butterflies. There is something so selfless about caring for another life, especially one you created together.
There are so many opportunities for your spouse to show they care about you and the new baby. Helping with diapers, feeding, and nighttime wake-ups are just a few things they can do to help.
Take my word for it. You’ll definitely fall for your spouse’s baby talk more than anything. My amazing husband was destined to be a father. And to this day, it is one of his many most attractive qualities.
No Case of Cold Feet
Often one major concern before marriage is the spouse’s ability to be a good parent.
If you are blessed with a little miracle before the wedding, this will answer that question without a doubt. Living together, creating a family, and supporting each other all seem to fall into place when you have a newborn before the wedding.
You’ll walk down the aisle without a doubt in your mind, knowing that you’re going to spend forever with the two loves of your life.
The definition of marriage has completely changed. I was on cloud nine throughout my entire engagement-pregnancy-wedding because it was like having all of the greatest life experiences rolled up in one. Make it even more creative. Put your little babe in your wedding.
My husband held our 4-month-old son, who had the tiniest ring pillow strapped to his wrist. I will never forget walking down the aisle towards my two men. Love overload.