The idea of love is unable to be escaped. We’re told fairytales of true loves kiss being the ultimate spell breaker before we can even walk.
So how has love become the dreaded “L word” people are afraid to say or even to feel? I must apologize before I start and say that I am and will always be a hopeless romantic.
I believe in love at first sight, in soulmates, and that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
I know that for some, it is scary to fall in love and to show someone this vulnerable side of who you are so you may have this mentality “Don’t fall in love, it’s a trap.”
You find this person who you would give the world to and sometimes you’ll never know if they’d do the same for you. You let yourself love anyway though, it’s difficult and hurts but also gives you joy so your heart and mind are constantly at war.
I must be honest and say that I hope everyone has the chance to fall in love as hard as it may be. Love is by far the best thing you could feel and experience in life. Don’t be afraid to do it.
I have fallen in love, gotten hurt and mended my heart on my own to finally reach the conclusion to never regret falling in love. Here are a few reasons why.
1. There are positive memories.
I got to experience some of the best moments of my life and I will forever cherish the time I spent with my ex.
While things may have ended and in some cases, not well, I hope that you’re able to look back and remember that at one point in time you were happy.
Try not to focus on the negative aspects of the relationship and instead, cherish it for what it was.
2. You will learn something from past relationships.
It’s important to look back on what a relationship has taught you. I look back on relationships I’ve had romantically and even as friends, to see that we were meant to help each other grow.
I was fortunate enough to be in a relationship that not only allowed me to grow but I was able to watch him grow as a person as well.
You very rarely realize the effect you have on people until you are no longer together, for instance you can learn that:
- You easily become dependent on others, which teaches you that you may have to work on loving yourself first and that your happiness should not rely on that of another person
- A relationship should not necessarily complete your life but instead enhance it.
- You may even begin to realize that what you thought would work forever, no longer is serving you and that’s okay.
3. You grow as a person.
As amazing as it is to watch your partner grow as a person, giving yourself time to grow is even more beautiful.
Naturally, we get into relationships and can become so comfortable in what we have that we take a backseat to enhancing our souls.
I believe that when you’re in a relationship you can be victim to creating tunnel vision for yourself and see nothing but you and your partner.
But once you’re ripped out of the vortex and your eyes are open, there’s now a whole new world to discover. You have the memories from the tunnel but can now see the light at the end.
Don’t be afraid of love. Instead, love what love is and what it can bring you. Keep your heart open!
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