Having friends is an essential part of life. They help us to grow, they’re there when we need a shoulder to lean on and they love us through the good and the bad. But the reality is that most friendships aren’t the kind that last a lifetime.
It is perfectly normal for friendships to end and for people to grow apart. Like any relationship, disagreements and compromise are inevitable and necessary, but sometimes people are better apart.
Whether it’s because you’ve gone to live in different places or had differences that ultimately caused you to drift apart, the end of a friendship doesn’t always have to be a bad thing.
1. It gives you a chance to grow.
We don’t all have the same goals or want to go in the same direction in life. But that’s a good thing because it makes us unique!
You may love that your friend is quirky and spontaneous, but what about when that turns into immaturity. It can be hard to spot, but sometimes the people we surround ourselves with end up holding us back from our true potential.
It’s okay to decide for yourself that the people you surround yourself with may not be helping you towards your goals and supporting your well-being.
2. They don’t serve a purpose anymore.
Oftentimes friendships are simply not meant to last forever. Maybe they came into your life at exactly the right time and helped you grow in ways you didn’t think possible, but now it just doesn’t feel that way.
While they may have once served an important purpose in your life, and you theirs, it’s also important to acknowledge that they may no longer be offering you what you need and vice versa.
3. Life gets in the way.
At some point in our lives, we’re going to be busier than others. While it may be easier to maintain friendships with people when you’re younger, as you get older, life begins to get in the way.
Whether you’re overwhelmed with schoolwork, a demanding job or have just started a family, having to maintain friendships on top of it all can feel impossible. It’s okay to take a step back and decide that there are other things in your life that need to take priority.
4. You deserve better.
Although a certain friend may have many amazing qualities, there comes a time when the bad outweighs the good. Is your friend fun and outgoing, but also talks to you disrespectfully and ignores you for days on end? It may be time to call it quits. We all deserve friends that uplift us and push us towards bettering ourselves.
5. You can’t trust them anymore.
Do you keep catching your friend in little white lies? At first glance, it may not seem like a big deal, but if they’re lying to you about little things, they’re likely lying to you about the big things too.
All relationships need to have a foundation of trust in order to be sustainable. Maybe you feel like they tell other people things that you’ve told them in confidence. At that point, you’ll want to get out fast.
There is a saying that goes: “You are who you surround yourself with.” If you find that your friend is holding you back in life in one way or another, you have full permission to do what’s best for you and let that person go. That doesn’t always mean that they will be out of your life forever, but at the end of the day you need to do what will fulfill you and nobody else.