At some point in time, most of us will go through a breakup with a significant other. Now let’s be honest, breakups suck.
If you find yourself crying into a glass of wine, listening to sad songs and binge eating Ben & Jerry’s, it’s totally okay! Everyone needs time to grieve and eventually, you will realize that it’s time to move on.
While it’s never an easy situation, getting closure will help make things a little bit better. Now I know what you’re thinking, it’s definitely easier said than done.
However, getting closure will help ease your mind and essentially make it easier for you to come to terms with what happened.
Here are some reasons why it’s okay to want closure after a breakup.
1. You deserve to know why things ended.
Often times, breakups leave us wondering what went wrong. It is very rare that relationships end neatly and that they leave us feeling secure with what happened.
Breakups make us question if what happened was our fault and how we could have made the relationship better. Without closure, people often end up blaming themselves for what went wrong which can make us feel inadequate or unlovable.
Talking with your partner about what caused you to breakup will make you stop asking yourself questions like “what if” or “ what did I do wrong”. You deserve a piece of mind and a conversation.
2. It will help you heal.
In terms of the healing process, closure is absolutely one of the most important steps you can take to get rid of the sadness.
You’ll probably find yourself going through the stages of grief that everyone always speaks about: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
The longer you avoid speaking with your partner, the more pain you will cause yourself in the end. Without closure, letting go of your relationship will only become harder.
3. It will make moving forward easier.
One of the most important steps to moving on is learning from the past. In order to do this, asking and answering questions about your relationship is essential.
This can be a difficult task because it’s hard to be brutally honest and to take criticism. However, once you get through it, which I know you will, I can promise you that you’ll feel a lot happier.
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In the end, there isn’t one easy way to find the closure you are looking for. You will probably find that it will be hard at times and that everyone has a different experience.
One thing that’s important to remember is that you have people in your life who love and support you. Never be afraid to turn to them for guidance or advice on how to handle the situation.
Nevertheless, once you speak with your ex, you will feel better mentally and emotionally. Getting the closure you need will help you learn from your past and it will help you plan for your future.
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